Crying it out – could you?
Well we have hit that point in every babies life (I think!) where sleeps deteriorates rapidly… From my repeated googling the consensus is that it s a combination of a 4 month growth spurt (there’s also some lovely tips to get through it on this page), sleep regression (this is a great article) 19 week wonder week and of course the dreaded solids debate…
It’s tough. BabBee has gone from 1 wake up a night to sometimes 5 – which is bad enough – but made worse that he no longer falls asleep again immediately after feeding. I am tired. I haven’t written anything for a week as I’m so tired (and also a little overwhelmed, how do people keep up with reading other blogs!?!). But as much as I don’t want to create a monster, if he cries I go to him and do whatever is necessary to make it stop. Fortunately DaBee is totally on board and (with a sharp kick in the leg to wake him up if needed) will also comfort his every whim. I can’t help but wonder if we are “making a rod for our own back” (etc etc!)
To be clear BabBee is generally a good sleeper. He settles himself at night and has regular naps in his cot when home. If he is whinging but I can tell he will sleep I will leave him – but these new night awakenings are much more dramatic than that and need intervention. We have tried patting and comforting, gentle rocking, sticking the thumb back in and they will work temporarily but he will generally wake again pretty quickly and need feeding, and then feed a lot! So I am resigned to it, he clearly needs the food – and the quicker I feed the quicker he will go back down – I’ll worry about that rod later!
But to get to the point, another (not friend) mummy (lets call her Cowbag) told me how she left her baby to cry for 15 minutes and she’s much better now. 15 minutes! She obviously justified it by saying how dreadful she felt but if you can not go in for 15 minutes you can’t feel that dreadful. It is of course the controversial crying it out, or more accurately The Ferber Method (some interesting science here)
I can’t ever imagine doing this… I’m far too “attached” but at 4 months???? Really???? Could you????