Well I came across this while blog hopping and love the idea. It also fits in beautifully with my focus for week… naps…
Yesterday DaBee put BabBee down for his after lunch nap. Predictably after 40 minutes BabBee woke up with one sharp squeal of pain and then some moaning. DaBee rushed up to him (after checking with me first!) and shushed and patted him a little… then came back down and said “Lets give it five minutes” as BabBee gave another little wail. After a couple of minutes I crept back upstairs to find…
BabBee Asleep. In his standard starfish position.
That’s the first time he has gone back to sleep on his own after a nap.
It was definitely a Magic Moment 🙂
Just little thought – what do you wish for your BabBee when they grow up? The stock answer is happy and healthy, but if I am honest I know I want more than that…
I want BabBee to be reasonably intelligent, bright enough to get decent grades at school and capable of going to university. I want him to be good looking enough to make friends easily, and girlfriends when he is old enough. I want him to be good at sport and be able to play on a team or two. I also want him to be good fun – for family occasions and going out…
I know I want a lot, but I want it because I want him to have as many options open to him as possible. I know how harsh schools can be. I know how harsh society can be. I also know I will always love him, however he turns out.
Well, what an exciting day that was, thank you soooooooooo much Rebekah @ The Dissocial Mom for giving me such a thrill! Woop woop a nomination for a blog award in my first week made my day / year! Unfortunately I was a little overwhelmed by the pressure and have been wondering how to write a great follow up reply… and wondering… and wondering… and am not at the point where I just need to DO IT! 🙂
For those of you who do not know The Liebster Award is a blogger to blogger award. Given to new bloggers who are building their audience, given by the bloggers who believe they are doing an exceptional job. Rules are “When nominated, the blogger must list eleven facts about his/herself, answers questions given by the nominator, and come up with eleven questions for the five bloggers he/she nominates.”
So, eleven facts about myself:
1) I love being a mum! I thought I would miss my job but I Really don’t!
2) I’m short
3) I have a short attention span and get into “hobbies” knitting, jewelry making etc then lose interest…
4) Football bores me (but unfortunately not my husband)
5) I am polite to people and then moan about them A lot behind their backs
6) (as above) I “don’t suffer fools gladly”!!!
7) I used to love exciting holidays but now I love sitting by the pool
8) Directions bore me, when people tell me them I don’t listen
9) If you talk to me when I’m reading i won’t listen
10) My sister and I see eye to eye on baby rearing!
11) I overplan and overprepare everything
Will that do?!?! Now my nominations – this is partly why this has taken so long as I wanted it to be good ones! The trouble is, how do you know how many followers they have? Sorry if I have nominated anyone with loads more!!! but… I nominate…:
- Stumbling through Parenting – a lovely look at life with a 6 month old and the journey they are on together.
- Tealady mumbles – (in her words) Clueless first timer trying to work out this parenting malarky
- Holding the baby blog – (this is her 2nd nomination!) a very honest account after her husband left
- Buttons Tiny World – this is a really cute blog about her life with her daughter
- A Whole Nine Months – a lovely blog that I have just discovered and am enjoying reading
Now there are a lot of questions to answer and I feel I am blethering on enough as it is so I will be brief:
•What motivated you to start blogging? My husband – he got bored of me moaning so encouraged me to do it online!
•If you could ask only one thing of your children, what would that be? That they value their own and others happiness
•What is your guilty pleasure as a parent? eg. polishing off some wine after a busy day and all the kids are in bed. Yep, the wine!
•What is your best “go to” dinner when your imagination fails you and you don’t feel like cooking anything else? Risotto with chorizo
•What is your most favorite thing to do during your “kid free” time? Swimming, dancing on tables
•What is one inanimate object in your home that you just could not live without and why? Phone… sorry!
•What is your favorite quote of all time? “What we do in life, echos in eternity”
•Who is your favorite author and why do you love them? Roald Dahl, can’t wait to read him to BabBee
•What is one thing that you used to love doing as a kid that you still secretly enjoy doing? Slurping jelly through my teeth
•What is the best advice you can give other parents on how to cope with stress? This phase will pass
And finally my questions (some may seem familiar!)
- What is your favourite thing about blogging?
- What would you do with a whole day to yourself?
- Recommend me a book (and I almost promise to read it)?
- What is your standby easy meal (inspire me!)
- What would you like your children to be when they grow up?
Thanks again Rebekah, and I urge you all to check out The Dissocial Mom This has been a mission but I love it!!! 🙂
Hmm weaning – a common area of discussion, argument and opinion – yet I must confess that I don’t know very much about it and people are irritating me already…
BabBee is 17 weeks and therefore technically old enough to wean… are people insane? He is pretty advanced at holding up his head (even if I do say so myself) but shows no inclination to sit independently and every time I have tried he flops sideways like a bag of potatoes. He has on occasion shown interest and grabbed towards a piece of food, but he has also grabbed towards the TV remote… I can’t imagine BabBee would any clue what to do if I thrust food in his mouth and is certainly not missing out by not having any.
What about the other “reason” people give to wean? Correct me if I am wrong but there are far more calories in breastmilk than half a pureed carrot. BabBee is exclusively breastfed, on the 91st centile and currently wakes once a night (fingers crossed!) he doesn’t appear starving to me? And when he is hungrier I feed him more in the day. No problem. And that’s what research tells me to do.
Incidently, he’s interested in the washing machine – is it time for him to do his own laundry?
My life has changed. Fact. It is now a whirlwind of baby classes , drinking tea and eating cakes! But, and here lies the big question, why do I care so much about the biscuits?
So far we have:
Sure start breastfeeding group, free, excellent support, no biscuits (I forgive them!)
Baby Yoga, £7, nice but not much yoga, 1 strictly rationed biscuit
Baby Sensory, £5, pretty budget but BabBee seems to like it, no biscuit
Baby Sign, £7 , very enthusiastic, unlimited biscuits
Cloth nappy meet, donation, not much happening, 1 biscuit
La Leche meeting, £2, good chat, 1/2 biscuits
I’m sure I didn’t care before, I’m sure the quality of my interactions with people was not measured by the number of biscuits they provide. For some reason, no biscuit is more acceptable to be than one. The fact is, it is nowadays biscuit matter and if Baby Yoga don’t get some decent chocolate biscuits soon, I quit 🙂
Well I have been pretty MIA – and I apologise. The combination of a fairly severe bout of mastitis plus getting obsessed with the clothopoly anagram has meant that this blog is dying out before it has even begun… I hereby publicly declare I will write a new post every day this week (you can call me on that!)
And I will start the week with something that has been bothering me a long time – Sleep and specifically naps. I will put a tiny tiny little side step in, there may be a miniscule percentage of babies who can get by on little or no naps and remain chirpy and cheerful but basically Babies Need Naps. Fact. Fact. Fact.
So why do lots of parents not get this? Why do I hear “only she only sleeps 20 minutes in the morning and that’s it all day” yet observe an obviously grouchy baby. Or see a baby crying and squirming in his mothers arms while she dangles a toy in front of him. Or watch babies being forced to participate in (useless*) baby classes whilst upset and hitting their face. Or notice a baby being passed around a group of people and as the baby looks away the holder tries to get their attention with smiles and coos. And on and on… and on… As ever, none of these mothers are intentionally being unloving they just don’t seem to get it… Babies Need Naps.
I don’t know who I blame but not really mothers (although some could do with educating themselves a little more). It just seems to be an unintentional conspiracy of mothers assuring each other it’s ok when actually, it’s not. Babies need sleep to grow and develop, the more they nap in the day the better they sleep at night, and actually babies that sleep are happier. Better naps would mean less overstimulated babies and therefore less colic. Babies need naps.
I guess the next conundrum is how to facilitate this blessed sleep, but at least if mothers were trying that would be a massive step forward. Babies need our help and there are many experts offering their opinions although I am definitely on the gentle side of the equation (more another day). And i like the first half of this article about over tiredness, they should give it out at the hospital! Please please help your babies nap and we would all be happier parents.
(*Incidentally I love baby classes. I go everyday. I just accept that under 6 months they are really for the mother and let the poor baby sleep if they need to x)
Well those of my regular 🙂 followers may have noticed that since my enthusiastic start I have been sadly absent… horribly I have had mastitis which completely knocked me sideways, although I am still feeding (obvs!) I am an enthusiastic user of cloth nappies and feel I should do something to celebrate Real Nappy Week – so decided on a photo diary as it is a little bit low maintenance!
Presenting, A Day in the life of a Cloth Bum BabBee:
I actually don’t have a bee in my bonnet about this as I totally get why people don’t use cloth nappies BUT
– they don’t smell, you don’t get poo in your washing machine, they look super cute AND you might save money if you don’t get carried away with the pretty pattterns
So why not give them a try to celebrate Real Nappy Week 13
- Real Nappy Week (stumblingthroughparenting.wordpress.com)
- Environmentally Conscious Retailers Band Together to Take the Bottom out of the Washable Cloth Nappy Market (prweb.com)
Once he starts smiling, people around him respond. They gaze at him and he gazes back. He watches the curtains flapping by the window. Then grandma visits and she can’t take her eyes off him. With this new attention, his excitement rises to a level that makes him uncomfortable but, alas, he has not yet developed the ability to self-sooth. As the stimulation and stress levels rise he starts to get distressed. He becomes tense and begins to strain and groan, especially late in the day.
His parents become anxious, “Is he constipated? Why does he writhe and arch his back?” Soon his distress level makes him cry and scream. He is picked up and passed hand-to-hand around the family who gaze at him, trying to fathom the cause of his discomfort. The parents ask advice from neighbours to Emergency Departments and the cascade of advice starts. (from here)
Must be colic hey? I actually don’t understand why or how so many people casually throw out “oh he’s got colic” when they clearly have no idea what colic is or what they are talking about.
Colic is uncontrollable crying in an otherwise healthy baby. You can’t have crying, you wouldn’t say oh she’s got uncontrollable crying. It is horrible and heart wrenching to listen to a baby cry and be unable to sooth them, therefore do some research yourself, and describe it correctly. Grrr. People usually assume it is to do with trapped wind as babies pull their legs up (babies always pull their legs up) and therefore instantly resort to over the counter medications such as gripe water or Infacol moving on to Dentinox and maybe a little Gaviscon thrown in. Why? Why are we all so desperate to shove medicine down our babies as soon as possible? Babies in Africa are just carried with their mothers, fed when needed and cared for – they don’t have this over whelming obsession with colic and related medicines. Why is our colic worse?
And on the issue of trapped wind, what is with the continual patting, rubbing and jiggling our babies to get out this wind? It’s not held in with an iron door, it’s an air bubble. It’ll come up – the vomity dribble comes up, what stopping the air? Babies burp perfectly well at other times, surely as long as they are sat up and able to breath and relax if they need to burp they will. Plus babies who are crying need to burp because they are gulping air and crying NOT crying because they need to burp, anyway, I digress…
As far as I can see there are two sensible approaches to dealing with this uncontrollable crying – making sure the baby is getting enough to eat and making sure the baby is getting enough sleep. Done. Considering the crying occurs in the evening that gives 20 hours in the day (ish) to focus on the other bits. Babies generally “grow out of colic” (can you “grow out of crying?”) by around 3 months, coincidentally the time that feeding routines are properly established and babies have more control of their environment.
I guess this simplistic view will irritate some, particularly mothers who babies have had “colic” and feel they did everything they could to help them. There is however considerable research that backs this up and I promise I have done my research. Firstly the cure for colic is often found through proper breastfeeding and ensuring the baby gets all the fatty milk and empties one boob. And secondly bore the baby to sleep this guy might actually be my hero, as I somehow found an article that pretty much summed up all the things I had been moaning about! (and he says bee in my bonnet!)
So stop those bees buzzing and relax, lets just give our babies the chance to feed and sleep properly and maybe there will be less of this catch all term “colic”
PS this post is also awesome!
I have been affected by reading lots of lovely mummy posts recently and have actually been more positive than usual! However, a reply by Gemma to my post on parenting experts got me thinking about a major bee, why DO some people have children? I’m not even thinking of the Michael Philpot and Jeremy Kyle esque characters but more those women you meet every day and wonder.
Take a “friend” of mine, Maggot. Maggot has apparently been trying for children for years and recently got pregnant after the doctor told her she needed to have sex more. You’d have thought in the preceding few years she’d have realised, but hey. Since having her daughter she has shown a spectacular lack of interest in a very very slow weight gain, and instead concerns herself with what outfit to dress her in that day. WTF?
Or Worm. Worm was the biggest hypochondriac going throughout her pregnancy and didn’t we hear about it. Worm’s daughter had an unknown rash across her face the other day but Worm brought her to the baby group anyway. It was chicken pox. WTF?
Or Slug. Slug states she wants to do the best for her son She wants to “help him” Slug gives her 12 week baby to her MIL for 4/5 hours at least twice a week. I am also pretty sure she lets him CIO. WTF?
Or finally Beetle. Beetle is a pretty loving mother overall and shows concern for her son regularly. However Beetle appears to have absolutely no knowledge of baby sleep therefore her son barely naps. He is constantly looking exhausted and whinging, often escalating further up the crying scale. Beetle never encourages him to sleep (despite gentle pointing out that might be the problem) and always faces him to the world “engaging” him. WTF?!?
OK none of these are life threatening (except potentially that rash) but some mothers don’t seem to have a clue, or just don’t seem to care. They are only tiny babies for such a short time, surely it is our duty to do a little reading / discussing and apply this in bringing them up in as loving environment as possible. I am fully into baby led parenting but some basic idea of regular feeding and sleeping is pretty essential so you know what your baby is leading you to do?
It bugs me, fact. To be honest i just want to say, get a grip and look after your baby properly. Stop making those bees buzz in my bonnet.
- WTF Wednesday (runnergirleats.com)
As a new blogger I have just come across the renamed Lullaby Trust, formerly FSID. From their site:
We have chosen our new identity to help us raise our voice, to ensure that sudden infant death is not ignored or considered to be an issue of the past.
Across the country, over 600 apparently healthy babies continue to die suddenly and unexpectedly every year. This is unacceptable and we want to do all we can to prevent these deaths.
We believe that our new identity will help us to reach even more parents with our expert advice on safer sleep for babies. Through greater engagement with families and also with policy makers we hope to achieve our ambition to halve the number of babies dying by 2020.
Jennie, mother of Matilda Mae is helping them raise awareness and asking us to share our own bedtime routine. We have a bath, massage, feed a sleepytime – with a Mozart lullaby playing in the background throughout. The power of music is incredible hearing that tune any time of day also makes me feel sleepy!
For Jennie, Matilda Mae and The Lullaby Trust.
- Welcome to the Lullaby Trust (ghostwritermummy.co.uk)